Self-worth, according to the Oxford dictionary, is "Confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect." Developing your worth isn't something we really talk about, but we should. It greatly impedes on your overall self-perception and cascades into the choices you make. When hardships happen, we can read about how the downfalls of life builds character within each of us. For some, that’s encouraging and inspires motivation. For others, it doesn’t help much. So, what does help? When you realize that your worth is not tied to anyone or anything that you can lose. That’s an imperative self-revelation. The moment you recognize that, the moment you become free from life’s burdens brought on by others and entities out of your control. It’s a choice. You have the option to wake up every day and be in a better, stronger mentality than you were the day before. You have to, you know - do it, which can be the hard part. From my life lessons to offer genuine advice, here are three little known ways to help build your self-worth. 1. DEFINE YOUR VALUE
Know your worth. Whether it’s a salary range in your professional career or setting assertive boundaries in your relationships, it’s essential for your happiness and overall mental health to define your value. A job, person, relationship, friendship, salary, object, hobby should never have the power to control how you think of yourself. Duh – right? No, really - You are in charge of how you attach your worth. Empathetically, we can get bogged down in our thoughts and beliefs in ourselves when we value a certain quality in someone or something else. Remove this person, hobby or job from holding the reigns of your complete and utter happiness, then see it for what it is. For example: if you highly prioritize your job, but you feel the work you’re doing is highly underappreciated, that can make you doubt yourself and your abilities. However, if you choose not to idolize this job, and see it as a job that’s a stepping-stone to build a better career path in the future, then you relinquish emotional freedom. You’ll get to this point where instead of getting down on yourself for things not turning out the way you planned, you begin to create goals that focus your attention on what you’re doing right and navigating how to get to the next step. 2. EXPOSE BOTH YOUR STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES Introspection is excellent. So, expose your strengths and weaknesses. Work on your strengths equally as much as your weaknesses. Shift your focus from “why is this not working out for me,” to “this isn’t going the way I planned, but I can still choose to optimize my time here and grow from this experience.” Frequently, things don’t go the way you planned. It’s okay. Regardless, they’ll work out, and you can usually find a benefit to the outcome (depending on your outlook). We learn to discover self-worth through experience. Uncover your beliefs and stand firm in your values. According to Barb Markway, values are “the principles that give our lives meaning and allow us to persevere through adversity.” Brainstorm goals. Figure out a plan to achieve them. Then go for it and don’t waiver your integrity because you, my friend, are valuable. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise. Honing in on your strengths and developing improvements on your weaknesses makes the pitfalls of life a tad easier to cope with; when you thoroughly feel confident in yourself and the decisions you make without allowing the weights of life to stop you from when building yourself up. FINAL THOUGHTS --- Learn your worth. Don’t focus on what other people think. Be kind to yourself with mental and physical wellbeing practices. Deep down, I believe building robust and formidable self-assurance and self-esteem goes a long way. That’s where you begin to build yourself up again without relying on anyone else to pick up the broken pieces for you. Life isn’t easy, so it’s helpful to have supportive people in your corner when figuring things out. Please know that you’re not alone, especially during this unfortunate time with COVID-19. Reach out if you need a friend to talk to, and as always, don’t hesitate to find little ways to enjoy your day-today with Mere Simplicity.
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